The moment we stop comparing ourselves to the other people around us is the moment we find happiness.
But we spend so much time in order to become a person we are not that we create a Shower of disappointment for us.
At some point of our lives we often start to hate ourselves that we will never succeed in life and end up being depressed and this depression keeps haunting us as time passes.
The main problem is that we our grown up in an environment where we are forced to be better than others so that we have a high status in a community.
That mainly is the effect of peer pressure. Parents often forget that we don’t want to be better than others but want to be ourselves and focus on how we are growing up as a person.
And the moment we fail our parents expectations, we give up, whatever hard work we put in and that results into nothing because we couldn’t beat someone else’s terms of academic or competitive abilities.
And then starts the comparison round where you are compared to all Sharma,Verma ji’s sons who might have scored a 100 and this discourages you to a great extent, and then you feel grief-stricken. When you get to experience the taunts, you feel that you can never be successful in life and start to hate yourselves. This is what you should never do. You should never stop believing in yourself, and never lose hope.
You need to ignore what everyone else is doing and achieving. Your life is about breaking your own limits and outgrowing yourself to live your best life. You are not in competition with anyone else. Push to outdo your past, not other people.
So, the only person you should compare yourself to is the person you were yesterday, you should never judge yourself with someone else abilities, as everybody is different in their own way.
You focus so much on the negatives in life that you fail to see the hidden blessings, because we are too busy staring at the thorn rather than appreciating the beauty of a rose.
Eventually, you’ll end up where you need to be and doing what you should be doing.
And for that patience is the key.
Your happiness is your choice. You can let your sadness break you or you can use it to strength you. Life is all about perspectives, fight for your happiness, do what makes you happy, let go off negativity and hold onto those that matters in your life the most.
-Wajad Khan